Beautiful Impressions

I believe that people are meant to be met

Conversations are meant to be had

Experiences are meant to be shared

So that we all learn

And pick up something.

 

In the last few days, I’ve learnt something about me,

I love to learn and read many different things

Just to be in the know.

Wisdom and knowledge are never enough, you know.

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I’ll say that I am a thinker

And  I love to listen to people

And help them

Or pick up their experiences

And help others.

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Victoria Beckham

Recently, I’ve been trying to explore the other categories of this blog and deviating from the regular ‘My perceptions’ and ‘Uncategorized’.

So today’s category will be on Fashion. I want to talk about Victoria Beckham. Please take some time to appreciate the svelte woman. Yes, I was having a conversation with a friend a few days ago and I realized that there not many attractively thin women I appreciate.

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Victoria Beckham is willowy and sexy as hell. She’s one of those women who don’t naturally wear revealing clothes in order to appreciate God’s work. I still can’t fathom that she’s carried all her pregnancies and still manages to look so good.

Please if it would offend you now, you can stop reading now. Victoria is one person that I’ll look up to for fashion, style and motherhood over Beyonce. She defines the meaning of phenomenal.

Beautiful Dreamer

There’s something utterly delightful about Carolyn Malachi’s Beautiful Dreamer. I hope you fall in love with the lyrics as I do. You should download it. Here are the lyrics:

Somewhere there’s a nothing
Waiting to become something
Fighting all the writing
Hiding from the lightning

We are in the suburbs
Racing to red lights
Having close encounters
Far away from home

Beautiful Dreamer
You’re so beautiful
Beautiful Dreamer
You’re so beautiful

It’s a never ending story
Dying for the glory
Living through the pain

You can do anything
Despite what you’ve heard
You’re on the verge
Of more than you can conceive

The world needs you
You need to be heard
I know it hurts
but I love you here
I love you here

In my heart
And in my mind
You’re like a line
You’re beautifully written

You’ve got me smitten
And dreamer I like it
Ohhhh, dreamer I love it
Can’t hate it, can’t stand it

[Jazz scat vocals]

Beautiful Dreamer

Do you believe?
The world is yours
You can do anything
Anything

When the world turns ugly
You must think yourself beautiful
When the world makes you feel weak
You must be strong

Beautiful

Please don’t give up

Beautiful

The world needs you
Please, please don’t give up

Beautiful

Please stay

Beautiful

Keep pushing
Keep trying
Keep living
Keep thriving
You can do it

Beautiful

Hey dreamer
I believe in you
You can do anything
Said, you can do anything

Beautiful Dreamer

Ssh! Don’t Tell Mother!

Do you know?

That your silences echo in our home?

That we give you fleeting stares and disapprove of you and pa’s bickering?

Do you?

 

Do you know that it affects us?

Do you remember that you should stay close to pa no matter what?

Do you know that we suffer from you people’s silences?

And the money issues too?

Do you?

 

Do you remember that life can never be perfect?

So we have to take one day at a time

Live and let live

Do you?

 

Do you know that your tantrums

Make us wary of commitment,

Of going through something similar in our own relationships?

Do you?

 

Do you know that we share the same God?

That He has thought us about perseverance and sacrifice

And that nothing lasts forever?

Do you?

 

Ssssh! Don’t tell Mother!

After the glitz and glamour

I’ve been working on this post for over a month now. I’m not even sure I’ve written to everything but it’s getting longer which is what I’m avoiding. I’ve grateful to Eke, Abdul, and Yomi for their contribution and support in this post. Enjoy.

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I happen to be an avid reader of Bella Naija weddings where mostly the finest weddings of Nigerians are featured. Nigeria is a country known to do colossal stuff. For instance: weddings, burials, parties, etc. Looking at the pictures of the aforementioned weddings, I’m  wandering if these couples are still happily married after their humongous weddings. I’m not hating on these couples, I’m just wondering whether the zeal put into the weddings are also put into marriages. The time and money couples channel into building houses and businesses, does it commensurate with the time spent building their homes and giving their children love and affection? I’ve never been married and intend to one day but I’m so sure wealth isn’t an assurance of happiness. Of course, wealth supports happiness but it isn’t the apex of a marriage.

Some women are myopic about marriage. In other words, they give great thought to the wedding and very little to the marriage. They want lavish wedding receptions, expensive hired/borrowed cars for the occasion and other frivolous things. I’m trying not to generalize but what happens to considering your man’s pocket and cutting your cloak according to your size? I love weddings and flowers and the ‘loveliness’ that is the wedding but at the core of it, I’m thinking of my man and our marriage.

The Nigerian society has fostered the perception that a girl must marry as soon as she gets a degree. For instance, a girl maybe finishing school in a few months. She is also in a serious relationship with Mr Potential and Purpose Driven. He truly loves her but isn’t ready to settle down immediately and needs another year to establish himself. Her mother may have been asking her about him and when she’ll be getting grandchild(ren). Her parents may also be undergoing financial problems too.  She knows some friends that are married or would be getting married before the year runs out. She has her doubts about him: whether he’ll still marry her when said year runs out  or if she has enough faith in her boyfriend’s abilities. Mr Rich, Older and Well Established comes into her life and showers her and her family with gifts. He sweeps her off her feet and before she knows it she’s breaking up with Mr Potential. The story may end with her being a child-producing device who keeps being showered gifts while Mr Rich goes to find a mistress. Apparently, all he ever wanted was to find a woman suitable to carry his name and child.

Some women are comfortable with this idea and some others who feel such women have low self esteem or no sense of purpose in their lives. There are also other women who can’t keep their man and wouldn’t bother to try but get themselves into affairs. I hear it’s called an open marriage. What happens to the children? What impressions do the children have of you and marriage in general? Why cause such turbulence and confusion in their minds?

Most man would not value you if you have nothing to offer, it doesn’t necessarily have to be money. To some of us not yet married, please have goals and dreams aside being married. Let the man you’re getting married to know you have something to offer and be willing to help you fulfill your dream and achieve your goal. One would have to remember that marriage isn’t all about money but what both of you can bring to the table. For instance, you may be able to bring the money and the other may have a knack for handling finances.

A marriage is an institution that spans a lifetime which I love and want to experience one day and I believe one should be a part of it not for the wrong reasons especially societal pressure. Strive to become an asset, not a liability.